Category Archives: Life Happens

Tribute to a lost friend… my friend Lars

Just a few photos of my friend Lars. We lost Lars last night / this morning. 9-18-11. I got to say good-bye to him on Saturday. I knew things were not good when I went to my parents house on Saturday. Lars always was excited to see me. His whole body would shake and he would verbally through whines and barks let me know how excited he was that I was home. It will never be the same going to their house. Lars was one of the calmest, easy-going dogs I have known. I will miss him, but am very glad that he didn’t have to suffer with people poking him trying to figure out what was wrong with him. Now he is back with his best friend and sister, they are playing in Heaven. Enjoy! RIP buddy. Love you!

20 Years, Where Has the Time Gone?

Twenty years ago this summer I graduated from high school. A couple of weekends back, I had my twenty year reunion. I was not going to go, but through the past few weeks of talking to people (who were not in my class) and a one who was in my class. My mind was changed and I was talked into going. Go have fun and enjoy every bit of the night was the advice I got, I was determined to do just that, once I decided to go.

Friday night started with a social night at a classmates house. Once I decided to go to the event, I had to get ready, what does one wear to a gathering at a classmates house where some of the people you have not seen in 20 years… I decided on Jean Capris and a v-neck t. Finally get there and it was a great time reuniting with people that I had not seen for 20 years. While some people I had connected with on Facebook, there were many that I really had no idea what they had been up to.  One of the nicest but at the same time most frustrating complements was “Your single, have no kids and have your own house… you are a catch for any man.” Or something close to that. While I know he meant it as a complement, at the same time, he made me think what is wrong with me.  All in all, the night was fun.

As Friday night wrapped up, I had made a decision to attend the next evenings event.  Saturday night was a nicer event at a local restaurant. We were going to be on the back patio… summer time, 20 year reunion… again, what to wear. After going through my closet, I realized that I had nothing that I wanted to wear, I decided to go shopping for something new. I found a cute silky tank top which I paired with black capri pants. I arrive, get my name tag and talk to a couple of people. Saw my “best” friend from high school (totally got the cold shoulder) and talked with a couple of other classmates. As I was sitting at a table, a few husbands came up and asked if they could sit at the table. I said no problem and asked who they belonged to… I got some BS answer and had to walk away and find a drink. Funny thing is just by looking at them, one could tell that they were assholes in HS… and some people never change. The rest of the evening was spent catching up, listening to a band and having some drinks.

Once the “party” was over… we headed down the street to a local bar. Where some classmates who didn’t come to the event were hanging out… and I ran into “Guy 2” from my previous post.

While I wasn’t planning on going to any of this reunion… I am so very glad that I attended both nights. If I had any advice to share, I recommend going to your reunion.

Breakups and Paybacks

As a single woman, I have been through a variety of breakups… some on my part… and some on the part of the guy. Some have disappeared from my memory bank and some have been slammed right back to the forefront of my mind. One of the most recent “Guy 1” (not the most recent but recent) breakups I experienced was on his part… it was almost as bad as Carrie’s breakup on Sex and the City … Breakup by Post it Note. This break up was really non existent. We had been dating for 6 months, and all of a sudden, I called him after a weekend class to determine our plans, and I got a “quit stalking me”. The most recent… was a guy “Guy 2” that I went out with for two dates. Two… this one just completely stopped talking to me. This one, is where the paybacks come in. Guy 2, I met right after high school… He was 5 or 6 years older than me… and beautiful. We went out on two dates, I got scared, I was this scared little girl… and stopped talking to him. At the time, while I really liked him, I didn’t really know how to communicate my “scared” feelings, I also wanted to see the world… he was “grown” and I was just getting my wings. I while I liked him, I sure wasn’t ready to give up my future, my schooling. Fast forward about 20 years, probably exactly 20 years. I ran into Guy 2 after my class reunion. A group of us went to a bar after the reunion. As I was walking through the outside bar, I saw this beautiful man… I stopped, backed up and stared… was it him? I said Guy… and no response, Guy 2… he turned around and we locked eyes and stared at each other for a minute. We had a great few minutes talking and catching up… when all of a sudden he reminded me of our two dates and my not talking to him. As I explained to him my side… he seemed to forgive. We talked a few minutes and then I moved on into the inside of the bar to talk with some former classmates. As the evening went on, he ended up inside the bar talking with me. We exchanged numbers…. and he kissed me good-bye. Fast forward two dates later… and then nothing.

Breakups are awkward, and hard to do… but I think honest conversation is so much better than nothing….

I find it interesting that Guy 2 says he is looking for a good woman… not a psycho, no drama, a nice girl… and like I have heard guys say to women…. you say the words, but when you find one… you don’t really want her.

Things I need/want

While my process of settling in my house has been a slow one, I have discovered some needs/wants. In no particular order:

1.) Treadmill / Bowflex Treadclimber: From the commercials, I really want the treadclimber, however, I know NO ONE with a treadclimber. I would like to  try it out before I were to purchase something like this.

 

 

 

 

 

2.) Full Wall Black and White Mural of Paris: My bedroom has a very french inspired theme, as I was looking on-line, I came across this great idea… however, it is a little out of my price range. Wouldn’t it be great to wake and see the city of Paris every morning.

3.) A new roof: As I am learning, roofs come in various forms… some are forever, some are not… I would like a metal roof… If I could make it fit my budget. Metal roofs will outlast the house… I think while it maybe a little more expensive in the beginning, it might be a better investment. (any thoughts?)

4.)My own landscaper: This is a dream, as I can do the work. However, I am lacking the knowledge of what to put where. I know things are moveable… so I am making the best of it and slowly making my yard mine.

5.) Hanging Daybed (outdoors): I have seen these in a variety of different magazines… I want to have one of these in my outdoor room. Eventually, I will be tearing off part of my garage to make an outdoor pergola room. When I have that room ready, this is something I would like to do.

6.) A Flat Screen TV: Would really like to pick out a new Flat Screen TV… I don’t have one picked out, but I would like one that I can hang on my wall and that fits my room, not too big, but big enough to read the print on the TV when sitting on my couch. Probably around 40″ or so.

These are the top 6 needs on my list, number 7 would be the winning lottery tickets… so I could take care of all this and then some. What are you needing?

 

What my town needs… at least in my eyes

So I have had some time to get sort of settled in my house and my neighborhood. I have some wants for my town to add to my list of things to make this little part of the world a little better. Now I know no where is perfect, however, I am loving my neighborhood. I have joined our neighborhood organization… and provided some ideas of things that I think would be fun for our neighborhood. There are also some things that I think my town needs…

1.  Trader Joes… or Whole Foods… I’m leaning toward Trader Joes, they have great cheese and wine.

2.  A wine bar or a place grown folks can go to meet other grown folks. How does one make new friends as a grown up?

3. A better public transportation system. One that runs into the evenings… so you cane be the responsible one and not drive after enjoying some of those adult beverages.

4. They need to build up the downtown area. I can tell, and actually know that at one time it was a busy city center, however with the invention of the mall, the store front stores went out. 😦 Just a sad state of the world.

5.  A real farmers market. When I lived in Kansas City, I fell in love with Farmers Markets. Here is the link to the Kansas City Market http://www.thecitymarket.org/ check it out you will see how amazing it is. It has a little bit of everything and some great produce. This could also build up the city center. Just a thought. One of my biggest frustrations is that the current farmers market is on Fridays from 8am – 2pm. Makes it very hard for a person who works to go and enjoy the farmers market.

Those are my 5 things that I think my town needs to improve the lives of those living here… mainly me 🙂 Thanks for reading!

 

Carrie, Samantha, Miranda, Charlotte and I

I fell in love with the TV show Sex and the City many years ago. Through out the years, I found myself connecting with each of the characters at different times/seasons of my life. Over the past weeks, I have been watching reruns and find at this season in my life, I have a little bit of all the ladies in me.

The side of me that has Carrie, is my love of fashion, my belief that Mr. Big is out there… and my love of great shoes… well I love great shoes, but can’t afford them.

Samantha is the wild woman… and the one who has her heart close off for most of the series. While I don’t have a lot of Samantha I love her attitude and her strength.

Miranda is the serious one… focused on her work and career. Doesn’t want anything to get in her way. While my career isn’t the most important, it is one of the focuses in my life. Being successful is important, and I don’t think a career is the only way to be a success.

Charlotte is the “good” girl… I probably most relate to her.

While Mr. Big isn’t one of the girls… He is what I am seeking… It has nothing to do with the money, it has nothing to do with the job. It has to do with the tingles. It has to do with the butterflies. I want the one that I don’t want to live without… I can always survive on my own, but I want to share my life with someone. I want to be with the one who I can’t live without and the one that can’t live without me.

These ladies are incredible women, each in their own right, but together they make an unbelieveable strong supportive group of women. One of the most important things a woman can have is a wonderful group of friends. Thanks for reading…

Answer to why I am still single

My last post I talked about how I answer the question “Why are you still single” but the truth is, have you seen what is out there? I have checked out sites like Match, I have looked at posts on Craigslist, and let me tell you the choices are not at all what I am looking for.  Some of the listings found on Craigslist:

Incest fantasy? – 33 (Chicago)


Date: 2011-06-05,  7:41PM CDT
Reply to:


Any one else into this? I’m especially interested in Daddy/Daughter role play. Hope to hear from you..  Really? Are you serious?

Older seeks younger – 52 (Chicago)


Date: 2011-06-05,  7:19PM CDT

 

Slim attractive woman sought by successful,attractive man for lover/friend.I’m caucasian 6ft 185 fit,athletic very intelligent and humorous.No games or suburbs,just quality time.love good wine and 420 friendly. Hmmm… sorry, I live in the burbs, and am not into drugs…

Will you be my feisty yet submissive sex kitten?  – 38


Date: 2011-06-05,  6:29PM CDT


Look at that!! … I actually got you to click. 🙂

My viewpoint is that all of the feminist baloney has screwed up male/female relationships and gender roles over the last 40+ years.  I am an educated, smart, athletic, masculine alpha male with a professional job, and am looking for a younger lady that wants a more traditional type of dating relationship.

What does this mean?  Here is a limited brainstorm:  I pay for our dates, and you are appreciative and accept it.  I do nice things for you and admire your feminine kindness, and you show me respect.  I take you out for dinner, and you dress very nicely and act like a lady.  I take you on trips, and you are very appreciative and make things as exciting as you can for us.  I seduce you . . . and you respond to my seduction and enjoy it immensely.

If you really like being a woman, and enjoy being treated like one by a physically, mentally and spirtually strong man I think you should write.  Bonus points if you are into outdoor activities, sports and travel. So basically you don’t want me to think or have any input. Really?

And this is just a sampling of what is out there on Craigslist… the other sites are not much better. So you wonder why I am single.  

The dreaded question…

Why’s a girl like you still single? Good come back… I don’t know, why are you married? These day’s when I think about all the cheating I see going on in the news… what is the point exactly?

Yep, I’m single… I am a 30 something… successful (at least in my eyes) gainfully employed, own my own house, no major debt, no children, not crazy (at least I don’t think so, down to earth, pretty and smart woman. So why am I still single?

Most days my answer is because I enjoy my freedom, but in reality, I am not sure I do things that I wouldn’t do if I were in a relationship. My other reason… I haven’t met the “right” man yet. I do say yet, I hold out hope that there is someone out there and it isn’t someone I passed in the store or saw one night at the bar oh so long ago. As I have been unpacking, I have come across letters from ex-boyfriends… reading them I wonder what if I would have stayed on that path where would I be today, who would I be today. I think all the choices we make (good and bad) help us become who we are today… so I wonder, what if I would have said yes instead of no.

Back to answering the question, my favorite answer by far, I heard in the movie Just Wright – “I just haven’t found what I am looking for… The one I can’t live without.” So far I have dated many a guy some very different from one another… some similar to one another… and yet at the time, not a one has been one that I want to live my life without. Let alone someone I want to share my life with. Sure there have been a few that I thought, well maybe… but then when I stepped back and examined what I was really looking at or feeling… something inside said nope at the time.  What is your come back to the question?

Takes Me There

Music has had a profound impact on my life; a song can stop me dead in my tracks and take me back to a moment in my past or remind me of what I am looking for in life. I love music of all kinds, all genres from classical to rock and everything in between. In fact, one song is playing right now (Need You Now by Lady Antebellum) that takes my mind to a place where I don’t
want it to be, but for whatever reason, this song takes me there.

Last night I watched Gray’s Anatomy, their music episode. Very powerful and touching, the music fit each scene and the characters situations perfectly. I swear, that I have days like that, although, I don’t break out into song, much to the appreciation of my co-workers.  For similar reasons, I use to love the TV show Ally McBeal. Theme Songs playing as you walk in the room, the song that gives you the power to get back up as life has kicked you to the ground.

As I was thinking about the impact music has, I was thinking about songs that have a spot in my memory. Some are theme songs from different times in my life and some are songs that take me there… The weird thing as I was thinking back on my wild and wonderful life, some songs cause me to remember everything so vividly, what I wore (clothes and perfume) and who I was with; yet other songs just take me to a place in my memory or a place I have not been, but am longing to be and I still know what I would wear and who (I think) belongs there with me.

Some of the songs in no particular order are:

  • Ironic – Alanis Morrisette
  • Rain King – Counting Crows
  • Seasons of Love – Cast of Rent
  • According to You – Orianthi
  • If  You Don’t Know Me By Now – Simply Red
  • Ice Cream – Sarah McLachlan
  • Woman – John Lennon
  • My Sharona – The Knack
  • The Way We Were – Barbara Streisand
  • My Ding-A-Ling – Chuck Berry
  • Alive – Pearl Jam
  • People Are Strange – The Doors
  • Mr. Jones – Counting Crows
  • Blister in the Sun – Violent Femmes
  • This – Darius Rucker
  • Avalon – Roxy Music
  • I’d Really Love to See You Tonight – England Dan and John Ford Coley
  • Who You’d Be Today – Kenny Chesney
  • Need You Now – Lady Antebellum
  • Wanna Be – Spice Girls
  • Better Man – Pearl Jam
  • Shook Me All Night Long – AC/DC
  • Marine Corps Hymn – USMC
  • Picture – Kid Rock and Sheryl Crow
  • Bring Me To Life – Evanescence
  • In the Garden – Church Hymn

While I could share stories of where these songs take me, it is best to just know that these songs take me back. If you know me, one of these songs might remind me of you, do you know which one? If you don’t know me… well, maybe we have some memories yet to be made.

What songs take you back? Do you have a theme song?

A Post A Week Starting Today 2/22/2011

 

I’ve decided I want to blog more. Rather than just thinking about doing it, I’m starting right now.  I will be posting on this blog at least once a week for all of 2011. Starting February 22, 2011 – February 22, 2012

I know it won’t be easy; I tried the picture a day for a year through my Facebook… would take the picture but forget to upload.  So my goal for the year is to blog once a week. I originally started this to track my “home ownership” however; I still have not found my home. I am closer… and over the past year have had a contract on a house, it fell through, put in various bids on houses, yet nothing panned out. I am hoping the next house I put a bid on is the one. Keep your fingers crossed.

For those of you who already read my blog and know that I have not written in a while, I hope you’ll encourage me with comments and likes, and good will along the way. For those of you who are new to my blog, I hope you enjoy my blog. I am planning on expanding my blog to write about anything I like, a new recipe I try, something I find funny or depressing, or just random thoughts, which I have a ton of.  I will still continue to write about my home
ownership and the trials of finding and purchasing a house and the moving in and making it mine!

Thanks for Reading!